Wellbeing and Flourishing
The PERMA model
Martin Seligman's work on Well-Being constructed a model called PERMA. These five factors contribute to our overall well-being. And when we want to be "happier" in life and thrive, we need to examine these factors in our life. There are specific things we can do to improve each factor.
You can go and take the PERMA test (free) at AuthenticHappiness.org.
I suggest you create a free profile as you may need to go and take a few more tests. Don't worry the quizzes take very long to complete.
While you are there take the Character Strengths test - it's great for identifying your strengths and what you need to be doing in your life to get you into the "flow’
Once you get your results look at each of the five factors and where you need to "improve"
Create an action plan for how to improve one of the factors.
PERMA Model broken down
Positive Emotion:
Consider that there is a difference between pleasure and enjoyment. "Pleasure is connected to satisfying bodily needs for survival; such as thirst, hunger, and sleep. Whereas enjoyment comes from intellectual stimulation and creativity which leads to job satisfaction and enjoyment."
Engagement:
We all need something in our lives that entirely absorbs us into the present moment, creating a ‘flow’ of blissful immersion into the task or activity. Do you know what that is for you? When was the last time you just got lost in doing something?
Relationships:
As humans we need connection, love and physical interaction with others. We are social creatures. If you do not have meaningful relationships, how can you start to develop friendships, connect with a community, and heal other relationships.
Meaning:
Connect to your why. Having a sense of purpose grounds us and gives us a sense of direction in this life.
Accomplishments:
Acknowledge what you have done. Celebrate it. Set realistic goals and take the time to celebrate where you were and where you are.
Get Thriving
Thriving in life is more than simply being cheerful (although that is one component), it is about having a sense of purpose and direction in life, having healthy and loving relationships that contribute to our overall sense of well-being and positive emotions, and it is about doing things everyday that connects us to our purpose and strengths so we feel we are contributing in a positive way.
When we aren't doing these things, what happens? We are depressed, unhappy, and sad and this can spiral into a series of very negative thoughts and beating ourselves up.
The key:
Awareness: create awareness in how you CAN thrive and where you may be lacking right now.
Acceptance: accept that the current situation does not have to stay the same. That you are in control and can make change happen.
Action: Focus on specific areas and take the necessary steps to incorporate healthier and more positive acts into our daily routine.
This leads to change. And over time, you will see more accomplishments leading to more positive emotions, which support our relationships, and so on.
Yes, it takes some time to make significant changes but small changes can have a big impact!
